I love people.
There. I said it. Got it off my chest; right off the bat. But there’s one major weakness I have. Since I love people I look forward to giving them a hug with a quick, “I love you.” Now, what I’ve realized is not everyone is as accurately in tune with the hug factor as I am. Until they embrace the error of their ways and hugging becomes the accepted “Hey, what’s up” currency, I might need to slow my roll. However, if you watch any social gathering, you’ll quickly realize I’m not the only one in this affection odyessy.
Have you ever witnessed…
1. The “Do We Have To?” Side Hug
I’m sure you’ve seen a lot of opposite sex hugs go down like this. This hug falls into one of two categories; either: I really don’t want to hug you or I don’t want someone (mainly the recipient) getting weirded out that I reached in for a hug. Either way, I’m finding this to be a waste of a perfectly good opportunity.
2. The Tense Frontal
Can be executed by people of both the opposite and same sex. This is basically the “I didn’t really want to hug you, I really don’t know you, or you’re a total butt cheese but I’m stuck.“ Either way, one of the participants is usually looking off in a different direction or is giving the “oh my word” crazy eyes to their friends (aka, the gawkers) and is typically closed out with the “3 pat back tap.”
3. The “Get In Here!”
These are the most fun and reassuring hugs. Basically experienced by individuals who haven’t seen each other in some time, there is an obvious sense of excitement surrounding this type of embrace. A huge smile will generally proceed the hug along with high pitched expressions and possibly a high-five of some sort. With the “Get In Here“, neither participant cares whose around but find themselves having to explain the relationship to those standing by as the onlookers might become a little creeped out by this display of affection.
As I recently ran into a number of old friends I was quickly reminded of the value of the hug. While the first two options are viewed as a social greeting the third is an expression of the heart. It’s that type of declaration that encourages the soul and keeps a person going.