Recently, I went to lunch with a couple of good buddies. Both are great guys, full of life, devoted to their callings and their families. Since I was driving, (and they like pressure me about my “extra insulation” surrounding my midsection), I decided we should swing into Whole Foods for a quick lunch. Our schedule that day was pretty tight and we were trying to avoid the nearest drive through.
Eric was on some sort of juice fast and quickly grabbed the weirdest bottle in the cooler (weird cause it was full of “floaties” and basically looked like bottled pomegranate puke) and Johnny, my “healthy friend”, decided to get pizza…after all it’s made with natural ingredients at Whole Foods, right?!? I decided on sushi…until I seen Johnny had pizza and sushi. “Which one are you getting? Pizza or sushi” I asked. He smiled and replied with, “yes, please!” I caved and followed his lead.
I’m not quite sure why I didn’t stand my ground. I knew the sushi I had in my hand was enough for me but felt I “needed” more because my friend had more in his hand than I did.
It makes me wonder how much stuff do we “check out with” simply because someone we look up to or like has added something to their “cart?” If we’re not careful we look at what’s in our hands and can suddenly become insecure or second guess ourselves simply because it doesn’t match up with what someone else is holding.
How many items have been needlessly added to our to-do lists? How many frivolous appointments filled our schedules? How many times have we looked in the mirror wondering who we were staring at because we had forgotten who we were?
Why is self control and contentment an issue for so many of us even though we’re fully aware of all the dangers they bring? Here are three simple rules I’m learning to live by to ensure I’m not “checking out” with too much “stuff.”
What are the essential items that need to be added to my calendar. These are the items I need to protect at all cost. Moving these items are non-negotiable. They get added to my calendar first.
What is it you need to be doing?
Not top priority but tasks I would like accomplish. Taking the next step toward accomplishing a dream or a goal. The stuff I would really like to fit in this week if I can. They might be items I’ve been pushing back for a while. Engaging in these tasks might not change the world but I’ll be a better person for it. Add them second.
These tasks won’t help me climb Mt Everest nor will the earth open up and eat me alive if these don’t get done. If I miss them I can’t punch the steering wheel, kick the cat or binge out on Oreos (though I do love me some Oreos). I have to let these go as more important things come up. These are added last.
Simple steps but essential at the same time. They might not save your sanity right away but at least you won’t have my crazy stomach ache!